:: My Point Of View ::

August 18, 2009

why do we yell in anger?

Filed under: General,Snippets Of The Piquant Life — lv @ 11:04 pm
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A sage asked his disciples, ‘Why do people yell at each other when
they are upset?’

The men thought for a while,’Because we lose our calm’ said one.’we
yell for that.’

‘But, why to yell when the other person is just next to you?’ asked
the sage. ‘ Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft
voice? Why do you yell at a person when you’re angry?’

The men gave some other answers but none satisfied the sage. Finally
he explained, ‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts
distance a lot. To cover that distance they must yell, to be able to
hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to
yell to hear each other through that great distance.’

Then the sage asked, What happens when two people fall in love? They
do not yell at each other but talk softly, why? Their hearts are very
close. The distance between them is very small…

The sage continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens?
They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other
in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at
each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they
love each other.’

Then the sage said, ‘When you argue do not let your hearts get
distant, do not say words that distance each other more, else there
will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find
the path to return.

found this article somewhere some times ago. i went all the way to track it back just to post here and it still speaks to me as it used to then. just feel like sharing it here cos it really hit me hard on the forehead when i first read it. cos i yell too much :p

“In your anger do not sin” : Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, Ephesians 4:26

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1

  • Be blessed, people!!



    1. so touching but i think u suffered from post-offshore stress…(reports writing!!)

      Comment by haro — August 19, 2009 @ 4:32 pm | Reply

      • hmm….. maybe :p reports writing can be very stressful 😦

        Comment by leanorval — August 21, 2009 @ 10:33 am | Reply

    2. Hi sis.

      You know, this post speaks a lot to me too. For the past few months of my hols, there were this time where i exploded and yell and reason being was because someone in my family did something which i can say somewhat breaking God’s law. Trying to be patient all the time not knowing that you are actually bottling up the anger which finally explode. I yelled like hell. Well, we yell when we angry because we want that other party to hear and listen properly and drilled it in their head.

      Very hard for me not to be angry and yell. But when your loved ones making wrong choice, you gotta do what you gotta do right.

      I guess we still need to learn eh. Not to yell. Haha.

      Comment by missroum87 — August 20, 2009 @ 3:22 pm | Reply

      • I hear you grace, i know what you mean. Just love them even MORE!

        Comment by ian — August 21, 2009 @ 5:21 am | Reply

      • hey there girlie girl,

        yeah, ironically we tend to yell at ppl who are actually close to our heart eg: family members / loved ones 😦 and didnt realised that in doing so the frequency of our voice makes them to distant away from us….

        we all just have to learn, no?! 🙂

        u have a good day!

        @ ian,
        agree! 🙂

        Comment by leanorval — August 21, 2009 @ 10:53 am | Reply

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